Sunday, June 14, 2009

Privacy and Kids: How Much Should a Parent Give Them?

I am at a stage in my life right now, where I need to be concerned about the rights of privacy I give my children. So far, limits and rules are being abided by, so I can't complain. With all the Internet predators, and texting games, I do wonder if I should be poking around a bit more.
I have no question that parents should be extremely concerned about the social activities of their child, and I do promote strict "snooping" and parental controls. However, looking at your child's/teens life and activities as a whole is important. Ask yourself the questions.......Do I know who my kid is hanging out with? Do I know these friends personally, or are they just "names" my kid throws out when I ask them? Do they have unlimited Internet and cell phone texting privileges? Any significant changes in their behavior, i.e., to outgoing, more withdrawn? How are their grades in school? Most importantly, how is your communication process with your kids? If your child is comfortable being open and honest, then your off to a great start. If there are some difficulties in this area of your life, I recommend you start looking into opening up with your kids. Read specific books on this subject if you have to, go to a counselor,....whatever you need to do to have a more open relationship with your kids, DO IT!

Have an intimate day!
Jennifer

Friday, June 12, 2009

The Truth and Nothing But The Truth???????

I have recently "acquired" 2 teenage children in my second marriage. Since my biological children don't pass double digits in age, I have certainly gone through a culture shock of epic proportions. As I take the baby steps with my new teens, my husband on the other hand is quiet used to them. We agree in our upbringing ideals, that being truthful is a priority, but how truthful should we as parents be when it comes to telling our teens about our past? Do we admit all the "experimental dabbles", or is it time to bury those events into the black hole of did & did not, and the have & have not of our subliminal minds?

Any experienced parents out there with opinions on this one?


Have an intimate day!

Jennifer