I recently left my job as a prison nurse, working with psychotic inmates. As interesting as my days were, I've been directed to seek other interests in my career. I do however, reflect on the experience I've gained working in a prison. Recently, I was thinking about a question I had asked the medical director on the psychiatric unit. "Are we just treating the symptoms of these people, or are we treating the cause?"
Americans are so guilty of the "I want it now", "quick fix" mentality, that we've succumbed to masking the overall symptoms of fear, stress, anxiety, sadness, and anger, that we forget or become numb to the underlying cause of these symptoms.
My husband tells me that I can be so discontent at times, and as that comment frustrates and enrages me, I have to wonder, am I just treating my own symptoms, without ever dealing with the cause? Then the "Ahaa" moment hit me. In all living situations we want to suppress the symptoms so that we don't have to deal with the underlying cause. We take a pill, take a drink, take in a hurtful statement, and act on hurtful emotions just so we won't have to face what festers deep with in us.
Fear, worry, regret, guilt; we all have it. Whether 5 years old or 50, the symptoms exist. All that is human converts and abides by "symptoms", while very few actually understand that there is a cause behind it.
My friends, this site is about intimacy. If you are married, single, have siblings, parents or have children, stop treating, or reacting to symptoms. Instead,.....treat the cause.
Start asking questions either of yourself or others:
Why would they do such a thing?
Wow, they sure are in a bad mood.
Why am I so emotional?
Why can't I just be happy?
You get the point.
Hopefully this topic will invoke a response to dig deeper into your "symptoms", and allow you to further investigate the underlying causes that may be preventing a more intimate life with others.
Have an intimate day!
5 weeks ago